The sound of a crying baby consistently hits in the top 5 worst sounds in the world. I thought it would be for me as well so I walked through my pregnancy readying myself for the sleepless nights and endless hysteria (if Bean was to be anything like her mother, that is; thank you mama for putting up with me). It’s not like I was telling myself anything us pregnant girls haven’t heard before. But never the less I repeated to myself this mantra in hopes of not being completely floored when she finally arrived stole my heart.
There are sleepless nights and sobbing baby in your future and this is good. A baby will learn how to sleep and provide her own method of calm. Until then, you are the world to this little thing. The whole entire world. This is good. This is the way it’s supposed to be and it is good.
These words remind me to slow down even in the less than perfect moments and take it in. Observe. Look for wisdom to take along. These words still carry me through; not just with crying but with life in general. “Slow down and smell the roses,” as they say. You’ll probably learn something about yourself as you go along through the list.
Power to you mamas and papas!
Steps to Soothing a Colicky Baby
So when you find yourself midst tears and screaming try the following steps and don’t forget that with the attention span of the little one being that of a goldfish at the moment, when you get to the end of the list… go back to 1 and REPEAT! I cannot tell you how many times I’ve gone to the end of this list… but it only got better with repetition and time.
- Swaddle. A swaddled baby often times is a quiet and content baby. The snug blanket is said to remind them of being in the womb which is a place they know best at this point in their lives.
- Pacifier. These little miracles go a long way to calming a cranky baby. For the longest, I was against these crutches until I had this thought: if it helps them soothe and calm, who am I to keep them from it. So now, the ‘paci’ is our friend.
- Bubble bath. Some babies are fans of a soothing, warm bath. As above, some believe that most babies take to water well, especially being exposed to it from the beginning, because it too, reminds them of their peaceful time in the womb.
- Keep them close. Babies love physical contact from their parents. So strap your babe into a sling and sing to them as you go through your day. Skin to skin contact is extremely calming and bonding for your baby. Consider doing more of this even when she’s not screaming her head off.
- Air bath. Clothes are unnatural to an infant. Try undressing the little one and letting them hang out in their birthday suit. Bean also like a fan on low to feel the breeze and watch the hypnotizing twirl of the blades.
- Sway. Put on some of your favorite soothing music and dance with your kiddo. They will enjoy the rhythm of the bounce. And don’t forget to sing or hum along, they love the sound of your voice. Another idea is to use the swing on a high setting – my kiddo loves it.
- Massage. Babies love the comforting touch of their parents so take the opportunity to help them calm by giving her a pleasant massage that she’ll love. You can even make your own baby massage oil for this occasion. Again, don’t save this just for those moments of little fury. Make massage a part of your bedtime routine!
- Burp. There were many instances that an outburst we were experiencing dissolves into thin air with the surfacing of a loud and satisfying belch! Remember, the more they cry and fuss the better chance there is that they’re swallowing air making things worse. So apply the art of burping your baby the next time you find yourself looking in the face of an arching, purple faced baby.
- Shhh: White noise. Again, this goes back to the babies time spent in the womb. This worked like magic on my little Bean in the first few weeks home from the hospital. Though, after that she preferred my own ‘shhh’.
- Shhh: by Mom. Some babies prefer moms ‘shhh’ than that of a machine. After all, it’s you they were listening to for those 9-10 months. So if the electronic version isn’t working try it for yourself.
- Change positions. Sitting up, laying down flat, laying cradled, bouncing, and repeat. Keep moving and changing positions until you find one that pleases your wailing babe. Sometimes they get bored sitting in the same place.
- Change locations. The scenery can too, become boring so take a tour of the house, visit the laundry room with the dryer on (sit her on top of it to feel the vibration) or go outside for a breath of fresh air.
- Take a ride. There something about the car that can’t be replicated. If all else fails, take a ride.
Key Take Aways
- Be patient. I feel I must repeat – if you get to the end of the list, go back to #1. and start again! It’s worth it.
- Create a positive mantra to focus on. I promise you, it helps!
- Remember – it is NEVER EVER okay to shake a baby or to aggressively placing it into a crib, bed, etc…
- If you feel you may loose your patience, put your baby somewhere safe (ie, crib with no obstacles or buckled up in a swing) call a family member, friend, or therapist to talk.
- Focus on the positive:
- you have a beautiful little baby
- the crying WILL stop as sure as the sun will come out
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